Monthly Archives: September 2012

Family rejection

Rejection is never easy but it has a different feel/meaning when it comes from one of your pets.

We have had our cat Kendra for about 3 ½ years.  She was adopted from Greenhill Humane Society in Eugene, Oregon.  Kendra has always been a little skittish and had difficulty settling in.  She did however settle in eventually, becoming quite good friends with our dog Sadie.  However, we then adopted a little black kitten named Percy.  The dog got along with both cats but the cats never got along.  During this time our babies were growing and becoming little explorers full of energy and fast pace.  Kendra never liked all of the high energy of small children.

We tried to make Kendra an indoor cat when we adopted her, but it became apparent that she wanted to go out.  On the whole she never strayed far but as time progressed she started staying out for a couple of days at a time.  Then there was the time when she was gone for a month.  We were sure she had been hit by a car, but then one morning she strolled through the door.

In early July 2012 Kendra left the house early one morning never to return.  We posted signs all over the neighborhood but never found her.  One day a neighbor suggested putting up some signs in a retirement community a short distance from where we lived.  The day we placed some signs, I received a call from an elderly lady saying the “I might have your cat and if you would like to call me, I would be happy to talk to you about her.”  After nearly 3 months of looking for our cat, we finally found her.  She looked very healthy and happy.

Kendra was not kept locked up or even went inside this lady’s house.  She was free to roam around and came and went from this lady’s house throughout the day for food and love.  As the crow flies, we lived less than ¼ mile away from this house.  It became apparent that she was not lost; she chose to leave us and find a calmer more relaxing environment.

After I got past the emotion of being rejected by MY cat, I found myself being just happy that she was alive and happy.   We were so excited to get the call while at our children’s school that we did not think and took them with us.  Our children were so happy to see Kendra but devastated when she did not want to come home with us.

We will see what the next few days bring.  Having seen us, will she come back to us?  Has she gone for good?  The nice thing is that we can go by and visit.  The kids are already asking when we can go and how long we can stay.

Being rejected is hard – but we have been rejected as a family.

Lincoln City, Oregon – Where all things were not quite as they appear!!!

This last weekend we traveled over to Lincoln City, Oregon, for a short weekend away with the kids.   Lincoln City is located on the scenic Oregon Coast and situated 11 feet above sea level.  There a beautiful sandy beaches where you can make sand castles, fly kites and generally relax. The kids enjoyed flying their kites and digging in the sand to reach water.  This was very exciting.  They also took the opportunity to run in the surf and in general get wet and sandy, but had a good time.

While we were at the beach we also saw some Kitesurfing.  This is an amazing sport that we had not seen before.  We saw people jump the surf and literally fly for several hundred feet.

We also traveled about 1 hour north to the town of Tillamook where the Tillamook Cheese Factory is located. We had a nice time touring and sampling the cheese products.

The kids played soccer, played in the park, took walks, played on the beach, saw new scenery and generally had a great time, or so it appeared in small snapshots.

I would love to say that this was a nice relaxing weekend however; it was not one of our better ones.  While the kids had moments of pleasure playing with each other and enjoying the time away, they were short lived.  Most of the time they spent at each other’s throats bickering and tattling.  As you can imagine, this did not make for understanding and relaxed parents.  When we left today we had planned to take the trailer down the Oregon coast and head inland at Florence. However their behavior left us wanting the fastest and most direct route home.

I’m sure we are not the only ones that have experienced trips like this and I’m sure it will not be the last; nevertheless it does not make this trip less disappointing.  Our youngest last night, after not been given what she had wanted, even went as far as to say, “It’s not fair, we’ve done nothing fun this trip.”

So I’m left with the thought of a “do-over” — do we get do-overs as parents? Did we add to this dismal weekend or are we just at that stage of life where an 8 year old boy and an almost 6 year old girl start to push the boundaries even further than they have in the past? Is this our new reality until the next phase?

We do love our familiy, the trailer and all the adventures they bring however; at the moment I cannot quite picture the next trip.

Happy trails!